2025 Wrapped

Health & Fitness

My morning ritual is not something I do, it’s part of my identity. I no longer practice discipline when it’s convenient, I am disciplined. All the time.

For that, I could not be more proud. Not because I wake up at 5AM, meditate, read, exercise, clean, feed & walk coda, listen to a podcast all before my day job - because I have upheld the high standards I set for myself. I want to lead by example for my future kids. I recognize that the morning will be the only time I have to myself where I get to do the things that make me feel good, so that I can show up for them, my partner, my job and everything else that might come that day. I nurture my body with movement and build strength, nourish my diet with nutritious foods, and challenge/ground my mind so I can be around a long time. I win the war within myself, giving me confidence to overcome the expected battles that arise in this beautiful journey we call life.

Spiritual

I felt deeply disconnected from my soul and purpose in life towards the end of 2024, so much that I rated it 3 out of 10 in terms of satisfaction. I can proudly say that I’ve found myself again.

The things that have helped me

Becoming Her doc: Asking myself these questions made me think deeply about what it means to become a woman I would look up. Answering them gave me clarity, and living as her gave me confidence that I am living as my highest self.

What does she look like?
What does she do?
What is her purpose?
How does she carry herself?
What is her energy like?
How does she dress?
How does she speak?
What are her habits?

Breathwork Meditation: How I ground myself and reset my nervous system.

Visualization Meditation: How I visualize my highest self daily and bridge the gap on how to get there by also envisioning the struggle/pain/resistance that might be encountered.

Gratitude: I journal daily about what I’m grateful for, as well as log a win in my app. It’s a proof list of the positive in my life, surrounding myself with these powerful thoughts/moments - it’s impossible to ever have a negative thought. This one act, has helped me make peace with my life.. and I hope my app can help others do that too.

Claim Your Power podcast: Listened daily to rewire my mind back to a place of power, good energy, softness and love. Now weekly as a reminder.

Saturday Reflection: Inspired by Mo Gawdat, former Chief Business Officer of Google, I take 30 minutes to write down things that make me happy/unhappy that week. Then:

Remove the sources that brought unhappiness
Do more of what brought happiness

I finally understand now what others mean to live by your souls purpose and connected to source. Our physical presence on this earth is just a vessel for our soul.

Friendship

This was the year of 6 weddings where I was the maid of honor for 1, which made me feel incredibly honored. As someone who has dreamed of the friendships I have today, it honestly makes me want to cry thinking about them. I have been self reliant my entire life, but this year I was able to rely on my friends to just be there, support me, and allow me to just be myself… my true authentic self. It was hard for me to ask for help, I’m not used to it.. but a lesson I’m so grateful to learn and have the best friends to teach me with so much love and patience.

Chi taught me the power of leaning on your community and how the right people will only feel closer to you, and never judge you.

Chau confided in me and allowed herself to be vulnerable with me because she felt safe, which I loved just as much as she did.

Samantha inspires me with her continuous personal development and open-mindedness to growth.

Serene was there for me whenever I needed her emotional intelligence, and shows me what a loving, nurturing, partner looks like.

Mike, Jen, Noel challenge my way of thinking with their ambitious, and intellectual conversations.

Truly, I feel so blessed.

Career

I poured a ton of time into my tech career this year. From starting a new job, excelling in the job, leading a cohort, speaking at my first tech conference, asking for a raise, rebuilding my portfolio for the 4th time, building a web app with 54 users, posting on LinkedIn my learnings with reading AI Engineering, building my first mobile app in a new language (React Native), and adapting to AI tools.

I also started a YouTube channel, something I’ve talked about since I was 16. I failed at my goal of 1 video a week, but I did end the year with 52 videos (long and short form combined).

The 2 things I wanted to do, I did. It makes me happy to no longer be someone who says “I wish I could do xyz” and instead just be the person who does it. There are honestly so many hours in the day when you think about it, especially as I don’t have kids right now. Now is the perfect opportunity to take advantage of all this time I DO have and enjoy how much I can learn/do right now.

This year I built myself a proper foundation, grew confidence in my abilities and get so excited thinking about what the future holds now that I know how to harness my power.

Financial

Money is just a tool, in the hands of good people, it can do good. Vice versa. So it’s important for good people to have money. It’s not selfish to want money, especially when used to help others.

I’ve never wanted F U money. I want giving money. I want to take my entire family and friends out to dinner and treat them. I want to buy my mom a house. I want my parents to live comfortably. I want my kids to grow up with an environment of abundance that allows them to thrive.

I’ve never desired material items for myself, but I do want a nice home. I want freedom to pick up new hobbies since I have million of things I’m interested in. And this is a tall order, but I’d like to change the education system one day.

Money is also transactional, meaning it is an exchange of currency. Nothing more, nothing less. Money doesn’t make me happy. Money doesn’t make me unhappy. It doesn’t have power over me, whatsoever, because I have removed my attachment to it. Reframing my mindset has helped me overcome my deeply rooted limiting fears and beliefs I had.

I may be far from my ideal situation still, but I have peace now.

Self Love

Being in massive debt changed and challenged me in many ways - but the biggest way was letting it overrule my mind and love I could give, whether to myself, partner, home, or others.

I let my appearance go even though I have always been a believer of look good, feel good. I felt selfish and irresponsible for spending any money on myself. Eventually I became unhappy with myself, duh. I let go of those feelings, and relearned to pour back into my cup. Invest into myself - go to the dentist, get a haircut, buy a lamp for my office. Reward myself, with discipline.

Environment

Established systems for the home

Daily: 20 minute tidy up
Weekly: regular cleaning routine
Quarterly: deep cleaning

For the home, we made 2 big investments. Gutters to protect the foundation and lawn, and a new tree because the builder gave us a dead one. We went back and forth for awhile but they refused to pay. We ended up splurging on a nice one - Chinese maple. She has a beautiful round uplifted shape, and her leaves turn bright orange red in the fall. I’m so happy we invested in a nice tree because I look out my office window and she brings me a little joy each time.

Peter also got us nightstands, mirror for the gym and curtains for my office. Slowly adding pieces we love to our home.

Love & Relationship

Incredibly in love with the relationship I have with Peter. It’s so beautiful to me how we met at 23, connecting over our shared passion of continuous personal development to become 1% better each day. We’ve been through financial high and lows, career transitions, identity & mindset shifts, parenting our amazing dog, and unlearning patterns from childhood & relearning healthy ways to communicate, understand and love - all which have strengthened our love towards each other. This year, we both grew the most individually, then together as a partnership. I wake up feeling so lucky every day to have found my life partner. I lost sight for a bit with trying to make money to pull myself out of debt & build a career & xyz. I already have a loving and supportive partner, which is truly what matters and will always be my first priority.

How to Be An Adult in a Relationship - 5 A’s to Mindful Loving: Acceptance, Allowing, Attention, Affection, Affirmation

I’m very grateful for this book, healed through it and will always come back to it.

Podcasts have also helped us both grow a lot. ESPECIALLY Modern Wisdom.

Personal Growth & Development

I’ve learned so freaking much this year. All at a reasonable pace so I never felt overwhelmed. I know myself so well now, I know my emotional and mental capacity. I know my limits. I know my strengths too. I read 12 books this year, and shared about them in a YouTube video. Knowledge is knowing, but wisdom is knowing when to use that knowledge. It’s amazing that all 12 books I read were timed in my life for me to apply my learnings, and I believe I gained a bit of wisdom this year. I love that there’s also so much more to learn.

Biggest lessons:

Surrender - Let go. Surrender control and lean into faith. Building trust is a muscle that can be continuously strengthened.
Ego - Whatever it is that you want, is on the other side of your ego. Love is light, ego is shadow.
Healing - Inner reflects outwards. Do the inner work which then radiates out.
Gratitude - The beauty is in the micromoments, not the milestones. Daily practice reminds you to be present with what you do have, instead of focusing on what you don’t.
Pace - Win slow. Similar to money, your habits compound over time. The small incremental wins allow you to GROW into the new version of yourself in a way that is sustainable over time.
Authenticity - “If you’re not being true to yourself, then the world you create will not be for you” - Joe Hudson. As humans we are all unique, yet we find ourselves trying to fit into a mold of someone else and their version of success, happiness, fulfillment etc. Whether it be familial or societal pressure, we fail to realize our biggest blessing is our individuality.
Discipline - Discipline is freedom. Undisciplined is being a slave to your mind.
Feminine - Embrace the power of feminine energy that is full of reciprocity, imagination, vulnerability, creativity, authenticity, collaboration and abundance.
Identity - The standards you hold yourself to will reveal to the world your identity. To become someone you’ve never been before, you need to do things you’ve never done.
Imperfection - Break up with perfection and your own ego. Show up without judgement on yourself. Being fearless doesn’t mean having no fear, but having less fear AND doing it anyway.
Abundance - Shift from lack and scarcity to a mindset of abundance. The only limits in life are the ones you place on yourself. There is more than enough of everything. Embrace the limitless potential & endless possibilities that life offers.
Duality - You can be soft and strong. You can be ambitious and take breaks. You can be successful and fail. You can be both, don’t allow labels to limit yourself.

Biggest realization:

I am rich in life because I have earned what money can’t buy. Fit body, calm mind & house full of love.

2026 is about Ascension - reaching new heights with this solid foundation I’ve built and using the momentum from the past years of growth.

Xoxo